A Personal Example of Anger from R
D&L’s Inexperience with Anger
L responds with Anger and R retaliates
L suppresses anger, comes out as passive aggression
D attempts to avoid face to face Confrontation with Anger
Inappropriate response to Anger Times Three
Meditation leads to Resolution
5 responses to Anger
Compassionate Confrontation most effective
Revenge and Fighting, externally violent
Flight and Fear, internally violent
Only Compassionate Confrontation neutralizes Anger
Compassion Not easy
Anger must be neutralized before Compassion can be Expressed
Anger * Fear = Intimidation
Intimidation does not go away on its own
Violence * Anger = Revenge
Compassionate Confrontation * Anger = Resolution
Difficulties associated with Compassionate Confrontation
Necessary to Disassociate Being and Person
Compassion based in Universal Being, not the Individual Person
R, a modern hero
Compliance<=>Disobedience * Internal<=>External
External Compliance<=>Internal Integrity
External and Internal Compliance from Overt Pressure
Voluntary Internal Compliance for Rewards
Abused adopts value system of Abuser to avoid Pain
Underlying Assumptions of the Abused Personality
A Lifetime Strategy of Internal Compromise
R maintained Inner Integrity despite Abuse
Either/Or Attitude needs to be replaced by Both/And
When the Investigation ceases, Degeneration begins
Pain: an evolutionary mechanism
Emergence of Nerves that communicate Pain
Pursuit of Light and Avoidance of Dark
Light => Pleasure: Dark => Pain
Humans Emotions associated with Pleasure and Pain
Fight and Flight encourages Aggressive Behavior
Neutralize and Return most effective at harmonizing Violence
Neutralize and Return has to do with Compassionate Communication
Biological Roots of Right and Wrong Behaviors in terms of the Force
First step in Abusive Relation: Establishing Dominance
Internal and External Compliance
Internal and External Attachment
Disclaimer
Scientists discover How not Why
Evidence indicates that Self and Person are separate
Misconception because Brain always shows up to analyze ‘Where?’
Want analytical Brain ‘out of the way’ when Experiencing Life
Intent of Brain bashing to humble - not to destroy
‘Good Enuf’ explanation of Light doesn’t work at the Edges
Wave people are perfect with single reflection, not multiple
Particle physicists explain data of multiple reflection - but not Why
Normal explanations leave us just Short of Bliss
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